WARNING: The Embarrassing Bodies website contains images of an explicit medical nature and nudity in a medical context.

Conditions

Female Sexual Dysfunction

Female Sexual Dysfunction

Is it normal to be scared of the doctor? Vote now! >

It is common for women to experience problems with sex at some stage in their lives, and often this increases as women get older. The main symptoms include loss of desire, loss of arousal, pain during and after sex, and problems reaching orgasm. Sexual desire can be affected by a drop in women’s natural levels of testosterone, but can also be caused by a number of medical problems, as well as psychological issues, such as stress and trauma.

Problems reaching orgasm can be a result of lack of stimulation, but can also be as a result of fear or inexperience. Not every women needs to orgasm to enjoy sex, but it can cause relationship issues, so Psychosexual Counselling is often recommended by GPs. Pain during sex is frequently caused by a condition called Vaginismus, where muscle contractions make sex painful. There are possible treatments, including cylindrical trainers to help adjust the vagina to intercourse.

Comments and Questions

The EB doctors have been looking at your comments and have answered some of the common questions below. Remember that it is always best to check with a health professional if you have any concerns about your health.

Comments & Questions are now archived, but if you see anything on the site that worries you, please report it and one of our moderators will look at it as soon as possible.
Please note: Unfortunately Channel 4 cannot respond to individual inquiries. If you have any concerns, you can check out NHS Choices, but ultimately it is always best to check with a health professional.

I've been with my ex partner 7 year and since we split I'v been with two other people and I've never actually felt anything at all during sex the only way I can tell someone's inside me is because it's uncomfortable I don't know how to tell my current partner and I would t even know what to say I literally can't feel anything during intercourse at all why/ what could this be?





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your answer.


Please don't swear or be rude in your answers, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting answers. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

Questions submitted to the site will be answered by other site users, not by medical professionals, so if you have a medical concern, please book an appointment with your GP.

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines

Hi I'm a 17 year old Jamaican girl, I had sex with my partner during sex I felt his dick then after a time it seems like my stomach become numb I can't feel a thing little after that I don't have the erg to urinate or stool. I don't know when my tummy is filled when I eat a lot of food and I don't know when I am hungry , I don't know what my complain is but please someone reply to this message and let me know what might be the problem if there are solutions please tell me in an herbal way cause my family don't believe in going to the doctor . Thank you.





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your comment.


Please don’t swear or be rude in your comments, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting comments. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines

Hi I am a 18 year old girl and I just started having sex. The first time was about 4 months ago and I couldn't feel anything like my boyfriend would try everything that the doctors online would say but nothing works. I even tried stimulating myself but I still couldn't feel anything. My boyfriends step dad is a doctor and he recommended trying birth control and I got on the IUD and it's not working. I have no clue what to do and the doctors don't know what to tell me to do. My boyfriend feels really bad, that it is his fault but I know it not. Someone please help !!





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your answer.


Please don't swear or be rude in your answers, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting answers. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

Questions submitted to the site will be answered by other site users, not by medical professionals, so if you have a medical concern, please book an appointment with your GP.

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines

Hi I'm 17 and have only had sex 4 times in my life. But I also have no sexual feeling during sex. I can feel it go in but it's not plesurable.Im really scared that I have something really wrong with me.. I have also tired stimulating myself but nothing works. The only way I can have any sexual feeling is by clit stimulation. I thought I was the only one who had this similar problem

Hie I am a woman aged 22,me and decided to engage in sec and I was a virgin then for almost 2-3 months the sex was painful but then after a while the pain subsided,but now the problem is that is don't feel anything during sex like zero but I'll aroused and well lubricated I only climax when I masturbate and feel sexual pleasure on the outside but penetration it's just not exciting for me and now it is affecting my relationship and I don't feel confident with my self anymore . Please help with advice.





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your answer.


Please don't swear or be rude in your answers, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting answers. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

Questions submitted to the site will be answered by other site users, not by medical professionals, so if you have a medical concern, please book an appointment with your GP.

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines

I had a historectomy and the surgeon tightened me also but now its very painful to have intercourse what can i do





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your answer.


Please don't swear or be rude in your answers, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting answers. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

Questions submitted to the site will be answered by other site users, not by medical professionals, so if you have a medical concern, please book an appointment with your GP.

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines

I'm a 50 yr old female with ms which I've had for approx 8yrs but have always had mega organisation n love them, however just recently I've noticed I still get very aroused but as I reach climax everything just stops!! I bought a vibe to see if that would help but sadly the same thing, yes I can get aroused no problem but once I start to organise it fades to nothing. Have tried all sorts of different stimulation, but nothings helping. N I gotta say there's nothing worse than the build up to climax just to find out.. It ain't gonna happen... I was told that my ms would effect my sexualality but I didn't think it would-be like this.. Pleaseeeeeeeee anyone suggest anything or advise me on what to do. Many thks





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your answer.


Please don't swear or be rude in your answers, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting answers. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

Questions submitted to the site will be answered by other site users, not by medical professionals, so if you have a medical concern, please book an appointment with your GP.

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines

I am a 47 year old female, married with 2 teenage children. Recently, my sex drive has gone into overdrive. My husband isn't impressed and thinks there's something wrong with me, as I am apparently 'acting like a 17 yr old'. Please advise





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your answer.


Please don't swear or be rude in your answers, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting answers. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

Questions submitted to the site will be answered by other site users, not by medical professionals, so if you have a medical concern, please book an appointment with your GP.

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines

I'd advise investing in a sex toy as it will release your frustration and allow your husband to not think there is something wrong. Alternatively you could go to the doctors as I am sure they can prescribe a medication which reduces the hormones. However, I definitely believe that being honest is the best policy with your husband. Hope you get sorted xx

I am a 33 year old woman, I have no children and have pcos. I find I have pain in the lower abdomen on the left had side when I have intercourse with my partner it feels like a sharp stabbing pain and can mean not continuing and even bleeding. I have had this for about 3 years I wonder if you could advise on what this is. I have been to my GP and they did not find anything abnormal. I have also had Sti tests and all clear. Thanks





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your answer.


Please don't swear or be rude in your answers, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting answers. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

Questions submitted to the site will be answered by other site users, not by medical professionals, so if you have a medical concern, please book an appointment with your GP.

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines

Hello, I got married at 25 as a virgin.till then I never enjoy doing sex while I am very excited about it. I only enjoy when I roube and press my lower sex part by my own. I love my husband but I never enjoy it with him.I like to see porn movies, sexy photoes, adult jokes. And I also like to play with my husband's sex parts until I get asleep. All is fine but when we start sex then i never feel that pleasure which i feel by touching me by my own. Is there any problem in me ?? I have sexual desire and i m not lesbine Please help.





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your comment.


Please don’t swear or be rude in your comments, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting comments. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines

Im 42 and been married to my husband for 16 yrs. Ive never orgasumed and I dont have feeling which is really hurting our relationship. I dont get arroused. I want it it constantly but I cant enjoy iy. What is wrong??





This will be published. Surnames, nicknames or usernames are not allowed


Your email address will be kept confidential and will NOT be published – it is only being collected here in case Channel 4 need to contact you in relation to your comment.


Please don’t swear or be rude in your comments, as they will not be added to the site. Please do not use your full name when posting comments. If in doubt, refer to the community guidelines

By posting on this website you are agreeing to abide by our community guidelines


Important Notice

The information provided on this website (including any NHS Choices medical information) is for use as information or for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical care by a qualified doctor or other qualified healthcare professional. We do not warrant that any information included within this site will meet your health or medical requirements. This Embarrassing Bodies site does not provide any medical or diagnostic services so you should always check with a health professional if you have any concerns about your health.


If you want to embed our videos in your site, read our embedding T&Cs here


More Information

  1. In Detail: Endometriosis

    In Videos - An in detail look at an operation to treat Endometriosis

  2. Doctor Responses: Female Sexual Dysfunction

    In Videos - Dr Dawn frankly and honestly answers your questions about female se…

  3. Vaginas

    In Episodes - The EI team roll into Norwich to setup a clinic in one of the count…

  4. Doctor Responses: Boils

    In Videos - Dr Pixie explains why boils form, what can be done about them and a…

  5. Doctor Responses: Polycystic Ovaries

    In Videos - Dr Dawn discusses the causes and treatments available for PCOS, as…

  6. Doctor Responses: Periods

    In Videos - Doctor Pixie answers your most frequently asked questions about per…

  7. Breasts

    In Episodes - In this second of four specials, the Embarrassing Illnesses doctors…

  8. Men

    In Episodes - The EI Docs go in search of the most elusive creature in the doctor…

  9. Teens Below the Belt

    In Episodes - Episode 4 of Embarrassing Teenage Bodies tackles conditions includi…

  10. Boys, Boys, Boys

    In Episodes - Episode 3 of Embarrassing Teenage Bodies takes a closer look at bin…

  11. Am I Normal?

    In Episodes - Episode 2 of Embarrassing Teenage Bodies looks at conditions includ…

  12. Quick Health Advice: Male Hairloss

    In Videos - Dr Christian explains the causes of male hairloss and the treatment…

  13. Consultation: Hearing Loss

    In Videos - Around half of all people aged over sixty experience distorted hear…

  14. Episode 5 - Holiday

    In Episodes - This week's episode includes a visit to the airport where the Docto…

  15. Embarrassing Old Bodies Special

    In Episodes - The Embarrassing Bodies clinic has opened its doors for a one off s…


Am I Normal?

Share, explore, vote, watch… Am I Normal? is a bold new Channel 4 project that will redefine what you think of as ‘normal’.

Visit Am I Normal? >