Conditions with symptom: 'loss of desire'
I seem to have some sort of sexual dysfunction, which is impacting on my relationship. I do not know if this is normal or atypical. I am a female aged 19 years. I am not anorgasmic. My desire for sexual activity is very inconsistent. Sometimes I have intense, persistent sexual arousal with desire for sexual contact, that does not cease after multiple orgasms. At other times, a strong aversion to sex with zero desire. These phases usually last 24-48 hours, with limited stabilization in between. This inconsistency is causing significant psychological stress, for both my partner and I. Is this indicative of a problem? What can I do to achieve a balanced libido.
As much as you masterbate - the first couple of times you are never really prepared for sex. I lost my virginity late in life, when I was 21, prior to that I had masterbated with toys, and my hands, etc. This is a terrible answer - but it takes a few times for women, I think for women to get comfortable with that feeling of a penis inside of them. I htink fingering yourself, and having your partner find yourself is a good start - but that feeling it takes time. At the same time - when you start having sex when you're young - you have no idea what to do, and in most cases neither does the guy you sleep with - unless they are older and experienced. It takes some time to find your fitting - and something that I didn't do and I encourage - is having sex with someone your comfortable with makes a difference in your comfort and getting more comfortable with sex. As always, practice safe sex.
Over the last 12mths or so my partner and I have had a diminishing sex life. His labido has reduced considerably. I am in my 30's and he is In his mid 40's. We desperately want a family but the loss of desire creates an obvious problem. He is tired a lot of the time but otherwise healthy. Blood tests revealed that his testosterone levels are a level 7 which is apparently low. What does this mean? And can anything can be done? please help as it is putting a lot of pressure on the relationship
for the past few months i've lost my desire for sex, rarely ever get aroused and havent been able to orgasm as easily as before. im in a relationship and we had a normal 20 year old sexual relationship, but for an unknown reason my desire to do it came to a halt? i am sexually attracted to my boyfriend, and i do actually want to enjoy sex. having researched in to it, it sounds like female sexual dysfunction. if this is the case, what can i do to get my arousal back to normal?
Hi I'm 26 and been with my boyfreid for over 3yrs now. I have totally lost my desire for sex and it has been at least a year. Sometimes if there's a lot of oral towards me I can push myself into feeling something but it never leads to intercourse because it always painful. However I just have no desire and dread the day my boyfriend can't be patient anymore. It's really putting pressure on our relationship. I've spoken to the doctor and nurse several times but they always turn me away and say it's a relationship problem or we are not doing enough foreplay which is why they think the sex is painful. I used to have such a high sex drive and now there's nothing there. Please please help me. I can't stand it anymore. I'm 26! Low sex drive shouldn't be an issue! :(
Your doctor and nurse are ignorant. Look at the programme of 26th June ( a young woman had suffered painful sex for a year, was told it was psychological, of course it wasn't). I was told the same thing repeatedly all my life and I only found a cure a few years ago. I'm appalled that after all these years medics are still unaware of a vaginal condition that can be treated with hormonal cream, usually only given to menopausal women. Change your doctor, ask to see a specialist. Not only will the cream deal with the pain, as it changes your hormones it will re-activate your desire. It's worked for me - I'm 71!!!!
Hi I have had weight loss surgery and lost 9 stone 9lb's, however since losing the weight, I now have excess skin on my stomach and due to weight loss on my breasts they are very saggy and to add insult to injury have inverted nipples which seem to have got worse since the weight loss, I am unsure whether or not to apply to my GP as I don't know if the NHS would allow this.
I'm 19 and have never had sex before, but did masturbate often however have stopped now because of what i'm going through its been 2 months. My doctor prescribed me co-amoxiclav because i was having pain in the tube above my right testicle. the pain for that has now gone. however i still have pain in my right testicle, going to the right side of my bladder and inner right thigh. My semen also comes out cold. another thing is when i need to urinate i just feel pain in my bladder and can hold it in for ages if i have to. my doctor has done a urine sample and has found no infection. also i have had a loss of sexual attraction/desire, before all this i was unbelievably horny all the time, however now it is virtually none existent and i find it hard to get an erection. My doctor is no help in this matter, please help me or give me an idea of what it could be. Thank you!!
Maybe you should ask for another opinion or to see a specialist. You doctor will take you seriously if you make him/her believe you are suffering. I'm not medically trained but have found a polite request to see a urologist or someone more qualified in this area is a reasonable request if your doctor cannot find the answer. Do keep trying. ;D
hi Ive had quite severe weight loss blood in my stools constant fatigue, always tired, sweating constantly, bad backache and im still eating exactly what i used to eat. i have had blood tests done and colonoscopy's and endoscopy's and they have all came back normal and im at a loss as to what it could be any help would be appreciated ty.
hey i suffer from ulcerative colitis and i had all them symptoms when i first got diagnosed but it did take a while for the doctors to pick it up, could be something else but on a similar line but you seriously need to go back to doctors and explain and demand something more to be done as its not nice feeling like that!! ..
Hi i been toilet 10 to 15 time day .its very loss motion.i went doctor they did put camera in my back and checked two year ago then they find some pulp which they cleared but my loss motion not stop doctor doing nothing about it.please help me i am sorry. Worry about it
I am obese and have a BMI over 40. I am 28yrs, mum of 2 kids and i am 128kg. I try laser weight loss to burn fat which didn't work at all. I been gym also, no weight loss. I been to my gp and propose me Xenical and even this no work. I want to know which operation I have to do to take all the excess fat out my body ?
I am 51, still with very regular periods and no sign of menopause (had all the tests) apart from excessive sweating the night before my period arrives. But I have lost all sexual desire since a couple of years - FSAD. It kind of crept up on me, until I realised I have zero sensation in the vaginal region and breasts. I have an aversion to sex in my head and have no desire whatsoever. (I used to be highly sexual). If Im having sex, which is increasingly rare, its vaguely pleasant but not pleasurable and has no build up to an eventual orgasm. I have been to many specialists, to research HRT and to discuss the lack of sensation and possible nerve damage. None have come up with any analysis or solutions at all and because Im still having regular periods am reluctant to try HRT. It seems to me that the issue has to do with the brain producing whatever the precusors are to getting sexually aroused and/or nerve damage. Im really sad about this as I feel I have lost my identity as a woman and cannot hope to form a relationship if I am not sexually interested. It may be a symptom of the menopause but its something that women dont seem to talk about.Anyone got any new views on this?
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