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We’ve had lots of comments and questions on the Embarrassing Bodies website about female libido and loss of sex drive. A common theme seems to be, could the contraceptive pill be responsible for my loss of libido and that’s something I am often asked in surgery. The answer is yes, but with a big caveat and that’s time frame. So, if you have been on the contraceptive pill for 10 years and you’ve recently lost your sex drive, you actually need to look at your relationship not your contraceptive pill. If however you have recently changed a pill or you’ve started a new pill and you’ve found your sex drive has plummeted, then it may well be relevant and have a chat with your GP about an alternative form of contraception.

And a question here from a 32 year old lady who said she feels she is getting too wet during sex. There are two possible explanations for that. One is, is it urine? In which case we need to start thinking about is it your bladder, you need to chat to your GP. The more likely explanation is that you’ve just got more vaginal lubrication than you want. That doesn’t mean it’s a problem, it doesn’t mean it’s abnormal but actually you can dry vaginal secretions but using a progesterone dominant contraception. So it might be time for a rethink on your contraception.

And a lot of you asking about vaginal dryness making sex quite uncomfortable. Actually that’s a really common problem and one that I see a lot in surgery. It’s usually because oestrogen levels are a little low and it’s very easy to treat so pop and see your GP who may well suggest either a cream or a pessary that may well improve your symptoms.

And some of you commenting that your find it difficult to reach orgasm. Let me tell you, all women will find it difficult to reach orgasm at some point in their sex lives. What you need to do is focus on the circumstances when you do reach orgasm.

For more advice on female sexual health including STIs, periods and female sexual dysfunction why not visit our Female Sexual Health My VideoDoctor.

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Doctor Responses: Female Sexual Dysfunction

In this short video Dr Dawn Harper answers some of the most commonly asked questions about female sexual health.

The majority of these questions were asked by Embarrassing Bodies viewers in the comments sections of our various female condition guides.

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hi,im 54,and been going through the menapause,for bout 3 yrs now,when my partner and i have sexual intercourse,i always end up with really sore vagina,right down the bottom,and i'm sore for at least 2 weeks after.this has put pressure on our relationship,as my partner does'nt want to have sex as it hurts me,it also hurts him sometimes too,can you help me please.





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can you help please im 43 married and always had a good sex life but over the last few years im so paranoid about intercourse i get very aroused and wet down below,my husband looses his erection and says its because im so wet.I got the courage to go to my gp eventually,and she told me i was lucky that most women are the opposite,this did not help!i am so paranoid now when we have sex i try to take my mind off it i feel wet and sloopy and it is starting to cause a strain on my marrige is this normal!!





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Hi I have been having sex with my bf for the past 2 years and when we have sex I can't feel anything.. All I feel is him going in and out. I feel no pleasure at all and it has been like this since I first had sex.. I don't know what it feels like at all.





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Hello I'm elesha from london, age 22. I have a problem getting pregnant and I am curious of what might be wrong. Please can I give me a slite insight of what might be wrong.





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Hi doctors I hate my stomach so much it gets me down so much And that I was just wondering if I could speak to someone about it please & see What I could do about my horrible stomach thanku





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Im 31 and just had my first time. (I grew up with strict parents and i was a shy overweight as a teenager and well into my 20s) i tried having sex with my first boyfriend but he couldnt get it up (so we had a lot of dry sex and making out.) lots of women have pleasure during kissing/sex but i dont. Kissing i feel nothing - basically it feels like wet leeches on my lips; and sex was all about the mechanics - a penis moving in and out of my vagina; no emotion, no feeling, no pain either. The only time i feel turned on is during masturbation when im on my own. The first time my current guy and i kissed it felt intense but it was on a night when i had been drinking alcohol. What can i do to make sex/kissing a better experience next time?





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I was wondering about my nipples both of them are in wards I am 66 years old now but still embarrassed about them what can I do about them please help





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Hi I'm 31 years old with 3 kids..but iv never had an orgasim during intercourse.and I don't feel turned on at all.its becoming an issue as my husband thinks it's him..I just want to be normal.





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Hi I'm 19 years old and I have the implant I've had it for 2 years now and usually get my period every 5-6 weeks but I haven't had my period for 3 months now and have started to feel a bit sick and I keep get cramps in my stomach is this normal





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Hi, the best thing to do is to take a pregnancy test at this point, as it sounds to me you may be pregnant. It is not rare but it is also not common, it is still best to check though.

I'm a 44 year old female and I have a problem I can't masturbating(cum) or get an orgasm what can I do what I real need some help.





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I have got this problem as well.my vagina is very dry. I have done hysterectomy 20year ago. I am now 54years


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